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  1. Julia
    May 12, 2020 @ 7:03 pm

    Very, very well said. Wishing you all the best. I have two friends getting married this year and can’t even begin to imagine how stressful rescheduling is. Clearly, everyone knows that they could have worse things happen to them, so I eyeroll real hard at the whole “there’s people dying” thing. People need to stop being such haters and have more empathy, especially now.

  2. Carolyn
    May 12, 2020 @ 7:27 pm

    My cousin is going through this right now, and she’s had the issue of people telling her that we postponed wedding/wedding events don’t matter because people are dying. Thanks for sharing about comparative grief. I’ll mention that to her, and share this post with her, too. Hang in there!

  3. Alyssa
    May 12, 2020 @ 7:29 pm

    Thank you for posting this. I’m still grappling with (IRL crying every other day) our November wedding. My question is, how does the relief of knowing your dream wedding could come true next year (without compromise) compare with the heartbreak of grieving getting married this year. Has it been worth it? Do I go ahead and bite the bullet with the potential inevitable? Will it make me feel better in the long run?

  4. Kit
    May 12, 2020 @ 7:41 pm

    So well written. I’m so sorry you have had to move your wedding twice – I hope that your day ends up being extra special.

  5. Rachel
    May 12, 2020 @ 7:56 pm

    Thank you for sharing this, Lauren. It is so helpful to hear other bride’s perspectives – as we all deal with changing dates, being cautiously optimistic about these phases, etc. And, I am all for the “everyone is allowed to feel how they feel” mentality. Everyone handles pain and disappointment and anxiety differently, so I have found it’s incredibly helpful during COVID, to remind myself and others of that.
    My fiancé and I are keeping our August date, but only because we had original plans to keep our wedding smaller anyhow – so if we have to go very small and just have immediate family – then we are OK with that. We are currently in the process of buying a home – and chose to close on the same weekend of our original wedding date so it will still has some special significance for us. And, we figure we will have a bit housewarming when we are able – with everyone. (At least these are all the plans for now!)

  6. Emily
    May 12, 2020 @ 8:11 pm

    Thank you so much for your honesty! We’re all allowed to feel our feelings and be sad about missed milestones. Grief isn’t a competition. Thanks for being so open and real.

  7. Christy
    May 12, 2020 @ 8:27 pm

    You are the best. That is all. ♥️♥️

  8. Melissa
    May 12, 2020 @ 9:17 pm

    In tears. I needed to read this today as a corona bride but also as a human. I’m delaying my wedding until next summer too and it’s been challenging feeling a bit “alone” in this in terms of not knowing any other brides going through this (still have my wonderful fiancé!). Thank you for reflecting my thoughts and giving me a sense of community.

  9. Peggy
    May 12, 2020 @ 9:25 pm

    Beautifully said Lauren! Our hearts are heavy right now, for you and Adam and for the grief in the family. But we will rally, we will be there next June, and we can’t wait to love on you guys! Love, love, love you so much. ❤️❤️

  10. Shelby
    May 12, 2020 @ 9:41 pm

    Thanks for writing this. I postponed my June 2020 wedding to November. I’m hopeful we won’t need to reschedule again, but who knows. It’s been difficult. I’m not crushed but I am disappointed, mostly because many of the things I was looking forward to have been canceled— wedding shower, bachelorette weekend, wedding, honeymoon. I haven’t talked about my disappointment much because I’ve felt like people wouldn’t think it’s a big deal. This post made me feel better.

  11. Fatima
    May 12, 2020 @ 9:51 pm

    So well said! Thank you for sharing with us, being real, and quite honestly, putting what many of us brides are feeling into words.

  12. Emily
    May 13, 2020 @ 4:37 am

    Thank you so much. I found this article via Phoebe also a corona bride. We decided to keep our 7/10 date in NY even though so much is so risky. My fiancé is an emergency room doctor and I’m a teacher so the summer was perfect for us. We’re going to have whatever is legal size reception and ceremony and then just have little parties later. This all just sucks. But I can’t wait. I personally can’t handle the anxiety and stress of postponing so you go girl for being so strong. I am in awe of your courage and perseverance. Ordering the masked up postcards to let our guests know what we were doing stung but you gotta do what you gotta do. Thank you for writing this. You are a voice to so many. Be well.

  13. Tina
    May 13, 2020 @ 8:40 am

    thats so true. I wish you good luck with your wedding 🙂
    xoxo
    tina from wimpernverlängerung salzburg

  14. Kelly
    May 13, 2020 @ 9:00 am

    I’m so sorry for you both for all that you are going through . You are both doing it with such grace.

  15. rea martin
    May 13, 2020 @ 10:53 am

    There are as many covid stories right now as there are humans, and it’s important that all the stories be told, and all feelings be felt. Humanity is a multi-faceted lens, and our history relies on the honest telling of our experiences. Some of the most eye-opening stories of the cholera epidemic were about the difficulties of romance during that time. Postponing your wedding is a very big deal, and your willingness to record that story for posterity is even bigger. This is how we learn patience, forbearance, and the humility to learn new ways of living and giving. Thank you for showing your heart so willingly throughout this universal catastrophe.