Happy rainy Monday! I’ll be honest, I was all ready to write about a completely different topic for today, but then I heard Glenn Close’s speech at the Golden Globes last night and I had to switch gears. In case you missed it, she won an award for her performance in “The Wife” and her speech led her to say this:
I’m thinking of my mom who really sublimated herself to my father her whole life. In her 80s she said to me, ‘I feel like I haven’t accomplished anything.’ And it was so not right.
And I feel like what I’ve learned from this whole experience is, women, we’re nurturers, that’s what’s expected of us. We have our children, we have our husbands if we’re lucky enough, and our partners.
But we have to find personal fulfillment. We have to follow our dreams. We have to say, ‘I can do that, and I should be allowed to do that.’
Since there are few things I love more than a heartfelt speech, I obviously teared up a little bit as I watched. But I really adored that she said this in particular, because it is exactly what I believe.
Of course I am not married yet, but I love Adam and am so excited to be his wife. That being said, my relationship with myself is just as important as my relationship with him. After all, it was really when I was single that I figured out who I am and what I want. I remember going on dates where I’d explain my ambitions and I could feel the moment where the guy would lose interest or be intimidated by that. While some people might find that discouraging, I knew those just weren’t my guys.
But here’s the thing…
Whether you are in a relationship or not, married or single, we need to be advocates for ourselves. We can’t wait for someone else to push us out the door. Nor should we allow anyone to close a door we know should be open to us. It is our responsibility to notice what inspires us, what nourishes us, and what makes us feel our best. And once we know what those things are, we need to believe that we are worthy of them.
So maybe this week, check in with your Workout & Wellness Planner and write a little bit extra about personal fulfillment in that self-care section. What dreams do you want to follow this month or this year? They can be huge life altering dreams, or small simple ones. But write them down and challenge yourself to follow that. Because you’re worth it.
Did you watch the Golden Globes last night?
What did you think of Glenn Close’s speech? Any other ones that touched you? I’d love to know!